| Separation and Divorce |  |
When a relationship has irretrievably broken down and separation or divorce seems the only option, often one of the partners does not want any further counselling, despite feeling desperate and often in need of help and advice. However, just at that very difficult time it is most important to keep the channels of communication open. If a separation or divorce cannot be avoided and you have children, communication cannot stop - you are going to be parents the rest of your lives.
Separation is very traumatic, especially when there is ongoing conflict about arrangements that need to be made. It is very difficult for people to make the adjustments that are needed after separation or divorce. It is emotionally difficult to detach from someone we have been in a relationship with for a while. Although couples have separated, there are still bonds of attachment. These feelings may be around for a long time.
Counselling can help you to be clear about the decision to separate or not, if you are not sure, or if you are having great difficulty coming to terms with the separation.
A professional counsellor will help you to explore your options, but it will be up to you to draw your own conclusion and make your own decisions. If you have decided to divorce, divorce counselling can help you to make sense of it all and can include guidance on how best to manage and communicate with each other, the children and other people.
A counsellor offering separation and divorce counselling should be able to help you to:
- explore the possible reasons of what has happened
- understand better why it has happened
- help you to explore what other sources of support you can access
- refer you to other professional agencies for appropriate services
- help you to become more aware of your own resources
- explore the best possible way for you to communicate with the most important people in your life
- talk to you about normal reactions when the body/mind is under stress
- talk to you about how to support the children
- re-engage with life and find new meaning
Please contact me for help in managing your broken relationship, or simply call me on 0412 466 426
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